Relationships and boundaries

About emotions and relationships

I write about relationships, boundaries, fear, and experiences that stay with us for a long time. I also write about parenting and support during cancer care.

I answer questions we often bring to psychologists. In simple language, with attention to everyday life.

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Why do I withdraw from contact with others?

You want to speak up, but end up saying nothing. You put off replying to a message. You cancel a meeting although the person matters to you. Afterwards, you blame yourself.

Relationships and boundaries

Hanna Swierczewska

6 days ago2 min read

I love you, but I'm leaving. A relationship in which I give up myself

You still love this person. You enjoy mornings together and remember good conversations. You want closeness. At the same time, you increasingly see how many things that matter to you you are giving up.

Relationships and boundaries

Hanna Swierczewska

6 days ago2 min read

I want to be understood. How do I communicate what I need?

You describe a difficult day. The other person immediately suggests solutions. You need them to listen for a moment. Instead of relief, you feel frustrated.

Relationships and boundaries

Hanna Swierczewska

6 days ago2 min read

Why is asking for help difficult for me?

Someone needs help, so you find time. When things are difficult for you, you say, “I will manage.” Then you finish everything in the evening, at the expense of sleep or rest.

Relationships and boundaries

Hanna Swierczewska

6 days ago2 min read

Done well, but still not enough. About perfectionism

The message is ready. You read it again. You change one sentence, then return to the earlier version. It was supposed to take ten minutes. An hour passes.

Relationships and boundaries

Hanna Swierczewska

6 days ago2 min read

How do I say that something isn't okay with me?

You agree to a favour even though you do not have time. You hear a comment that hurts, but you do not respond. Later, you revisit the conversation and wonder why you said nothing again.

Relationships and boundaries

Hanna Swierczewska

6 days ago2 min read

Why do you keep practising what you don't want to be?

You do not say something is not okay with you. You agree even though you do not want to. Later, you tell someone that nobody takes your opinion into account again.

Relationships and boundaries

Hanna Swierczewska

6 days ago2 min read

Your first psychological consultation. Where do you start?

Sometimes deciding to book a meeting takes longer than the consultation itself. Questions arise: what should I say, where should I start, am I overreacting?

Relationships and boundaries

Hanna Swierczewska

6 days ago2 min read

When is it worth seeing a psychologist?

You are not sure whether you need a consultation. Things are difficult, but you still work and take care of everyday matters. You wonder whether that is a good enough reason.

Relationships and boundaries

Hanna Swierczewska

6 days ago2 min read