A cancer diagnosis. I don't know what I'm feeling now
The doctor explains what the tests showed. You hear the diagnosis. More information follows, but it is difficult to remember. After leaving the consulting room, you are unsure exactly what was agreed.
Loved ones ask about treatment. They want to know what comes next. You need a moment to understand what you already know.
Different reactions can follow a diagnosis. Fear, anger, sadness or disbelief. Sometimes it is hard to name any feeling. You deal with documents and appointments. Only in the evening does the meaning of the conversation sink in.
You are not obliged to react in a particular way. Not crying does not mean the diagnosis has not affected you. Crying does not mean you will be unable to cope with treatment.
Start by establishing the next step. What examination is needed? When is the next appointment? Who should you contact if questions arise?
Write down what you want to ask the doctor. If something is unclear, ask for an explanation in simpler words. You may return to the same question.
If you want, bring someone close to the appointment. Agree beforehand what you need from them. Taking notes, asking questions or simply being present. You decide whom you want beside you.
You do not have to answer every message immediately. Say, “I do not want to talk about it today. I will get in touch after the appointment.” For practical matters, ask one person to pass information on to others.
Psycho-oncological support is also for people who have just received a diagnosis. The conversation concerns what is most difficult now. Worries about treatment, family, work or how to tell loved ones about the illness.
If tension interferes with sleep, eating or everyday functioning, tell your treatment team. It is worth reporting these difficulties rather than waiting until they become unbearable.
Hanna Swierczewska
Psychologist, psychotraumatologist, psycho-oncologist
If you would like to talk about your situation, you are welcome to book an online consultation.
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